This is a question that many of us wrestle with when we’re in the midst of trials and challenges in our relationships. Maybe you’re struggling in your marriage, or facing doubt about your partner, and you turn to God in prayer, asking for guidance, direction, or clarity. But I’ve noticed that the questions many people ask are often the wrong ones.
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The first thing to understand is this: God will never override your free will. It’s the highest gift He’s given us, and He will never go against it. Even if God has a perfect plan for your life and you choose to go a different direction, He won’t stop you. He may try to guide you through signs, whispers, or lessons — like He did with me over 20 years — but He will never force you to follow His will.
So, when you’re in doubt and ask, “God, do you approve of me being with this person?” the likely answer is yes, because you’re choosing this person. If that’s what you want, why wouldn’t God let it happen? However, this isn’t the best question to ask, because it’s not about God approving of your relationship. It’s more about understanding what purpose this relationship serves in your life. Is this the person God intended for you to be with?
The signs you receive can help answer this deeper question. If you’re unsure how God communicates with you, I encourage you to check out my other videos on how God answers prayers — it might be helpful in interpreting the signs you receive.
But here’s the key: even if God does approve of this relationship and you feel led to stay, your partner still has free will. Just because you’re in God’s plan doesn’t mean your partner won’t make choices that hurt you or stray from God’s will for them. For example, if your wife cheats on you, even though God may have had a plan for you two together, that choice is not from God. It’s a sin, and God doesn’t want anyone to sin.
Now, you’re left with a choice: do you stay with this person, believing that God still has a purpose for you together? Or do you choose to move on, knowing that their actions have crossed a line you can’t forgive? Either way, it’s your decision, and that’s because free will is always at play.
Free will is the highest form of freedom that God has given us, and that means God’s plan for your life doesn’t negate the choices of others — even if they hurt you. People’s choices are not God’s fault, even when those choices cause pain in our lives. While God doesn’t want us to hurt each other, the fact is that humans often make sinful decisions that harm others.
And here’s another thing: even if you get God’s “approval” on a relationship, it doesn’t mean it will be easy or free of hardship. Your partner might still choose actions that hurt the relationship, and that can lead to separation. If that happens, don’t despair. God might bring someone else into your life who aligns with your purpose, and who will walk with you through the lessons you’re meant to learn.
The main takeaway here is this: your free will and the free will of others shape your life more than you may realize. God doesn’t control everything in your life; He gives you the freedom to choose. So, don’t blame God for the mistakes of others. Instead, turn to Him and ask the right questions.
Rather than asking, “Does God approve of this person in my life?” try asking, “Is this the person You’ve planned for me?” Or better yet, “What lesson should I learn from this relationship?” It’s crucial to approach God with the right mindset in prayer. While you might not always get an immediate, direct answer, you can trust that He will guide you through the situations that unfold.
Remember, don’t blame God for the bad things people do to you. Life is full of trials and tribulations, but it’s the free will of others — not God — that often causes the most pain. God’s ultimate desire for us is to live in love, not sin, and to grow through the challenges we face.
So, look at your prayer life. Are you asking the right questions? Are you focusing on what God wants for you, or are you just looking for answers that confirm your own desires?
I hope this helps you see things in a new light. I’ll see you in the next video.
