How we lie to our women, part III – Career and family

In the first article, I talked about the misconception of beauty and hotness. Then we went deep into the topic of sex, and why most women these days have it completely backward. And for now, let’s get into another big topic, which sort of fills into that. Career and family.

The misconceptions about this aren’t quite as bad as the others, but it is still bad enough to mention it. You know the “I don’t need no man.” bs and “pursue a career, so you never need to cling to a man!”

It’s all horseshit, here’s why.

Goddamn kids

A child is the neediest thing you can ever have in your life. Probably on this planet. Not only does it need full-blown attention from the mother for the first 9 months after (!) birth, it also needs lots of your time, attention, money, and nerves for about 20 years.

So, you’re fully occupied by the kid. How do you think you’re gonna have time to pursue a career this way? Quite apart from the biological factor that you need a man to have kids (even in-vitro is just another dude’s sperm), you also need a second person. I cannot stress this enough, you need a second person when you have kids.

Sure, you can raise a kid alone, but it’s a subpar solution. Plus, we know for a fact, that kids with two parents come up better. Way better. And as someone who wasn’t raised with a father, I can tell you, that my childhood was straight shit. Only through a lot of pain and self-conquering, I managed to sort of become a proper human. And I am still fighting it.

Divorce Inc

Now I know, there is a lot of money to be made with divorcing dudes. You could even say, it’s a great source of passive income. So technically, you wouldn’t need to work for the child support, money. Sure.

But this is only slightly scratching above groundwater. It’s a much better solution to find a proper man, support him in his mission, so he makes enough to provide for you and the kids. But I know, your social conditioning tells you, it is bad to be dependent on a man. Because they’re all pigs, right?

A great woman supports a great man on his great missions.

The conqueror

So you rather be out partying, fucking dudes, etc. and occasionally spending time with your kids. Because society told you, you need to be free. Enjoy life. And kids are so much work! And as you see in any stupid pop culture movie, married parental life is shit! No sex, just chores, stress, etc.

Why a family tho?

Well, while it is stressful sometimes for sure, it is also very giving. Studies show, that you are the most happiness if you have kids. After they moved out. Yeah, well, of course! While there are certainly loveable moments while they are small, the best feeling is obviously when they are adults, moved out, and started their own life. Why?

Because you achieved something!

Your life has meaning!

You raised proper kids. Another generation of humans, who might not fuck up this world. You can be proud of what you achieved. Can you be proud of riding the cock carousel? Sex is the easiest thing to get as a woman. What is there to be proud of? I mean that. There is rarely a woman who really has issues finding a sexual partner. If you go to a club, all the men out there are hunting pussy, what makes it so hard to actually take one of those dicks?

And do you really feel good? Maybe, because you’ve numbed your feelings so heavily, that you don’t even realize that shallow life your living. Without meaning. Without purpose. You merely exist.

The meaning of family, err… life

I keep saying that the meaning of life is responsibility. You need something for what you get up each morning. A reason. The only reason why people sleep in on weekends is because they have nothing to live for. Why would you get up early if the only thing you look forward to is an empty apartment and Netflix?

Life needs purpose. For if you don’t have something to strive for, you merely exist in this short blip of time.

The conqueror

Obviously, responsibility has its drawbacks. As I said, a kid is a hell of work. But you get up each day to make something out of that kid. To make something out of that life you have.

And you also do that with your husband.

The female part towards a man

See, the father of your kids, which should be your husband, has a purpose as well. Even though society keeps telling you, that single motherhood is actually good, and men are aggressive and all that, you, as a woman, can never, and I repeat, never give a child the masculine influence it desperately needs.

As someone who grew up without those figures, I only came to realize this with 30 years old! Before that, I was a Nice Guy. A weak, backbiting loser who was passive aggressive towards his woman, friends, and family.

If you’ve ever had such a man (since they are common these days), how can you ever wish to raise such a boy? And if you had a proper father yourself, or you didn’t, you realize how important a male role is for a daughter!

A child can only fully develop the gender dynamics if it is raised by man and woman.

The conqueror

So it is your role, to not belittle your husband for being a man. He needs time with the kids alone! And you should support that. You should give him the feeling of being a man. You know how to do that, it’s not just sex. It’s your everyday behavior (but it is mostly sex, sure).

a bride in hot white lingerie

On a pale horse

I know it feels like you give up everything for this. But do you really? If you have a proper relationship, even with a family, you can still occasionally go out with friends. It just changes from skimpy dress club-fest to cute dress drinking coffee with the girls. So what? Need male attention? Well, be multiple partners in one and your guy can give you that.

Remember. You’re not the only one sacrificing! Men are biologically designed to fertilize as many women as possible. They give that up as well. Female sexual attention. As well as you give up male attention.

It’s a sacrifice for both of you. So stop being so entitled. Get off your high horse, you’re not the only one giving up dreams. You both do it for the betterment of your kids. And don’t think there aren’t good things in having a family.

It’s not just chores and work. There is immense pleasure in being with your family. But, it isn’t as shallow as fucking dudes. It is very deep. You need to drop your shields and cherish the feelings towards these people. Which is also what makes for way better sex. And way deeper connection.

The fallacy of career vs family

“But muh career!”. Well, there are multiple cases of women who after they’ve hit their fertility prime, said that they should’ve never gone after the career. That they want a husband and kids. This is ingrained in us humans. And especially in women. You are the emotional creatures, you need the connection.

A career doesn’t give you that. Not at all.

When you’re 38, waking up at 5 am to call a client in Japan because this and that, you might realize that this isn’t a life worth living. Your options are running out each minute. It’s unfair and tough, but as a woman, you need to have your life in order by about 30-33. Otherwise, it’s gonna get really hard to have a family. And as these women report, this isn’t a great life.

Sure, there are occasional ones, who really revel in the sex. They fuck dudes until they are 60 no strings attached. Yes. But those are the extremes, and very rare. Most women really crave for a family.

But because society put these barriers in your head, that you need to study until you’re 29, then work a job till 35 to climb the meaningless corporate ladder, it might be too late. You’re so busy with this shit, it might be too late for you to get what will set up the rest of your life by the time you leave college.

The counterculture

Considering how most people are not properly set up in their minds until they are about 25, I wouldn’t recommend marrying the first dude with 19. But instead of just searching for sex, how about you improve your skills to screen for proper values.

Sexual compatibility is important, but you can always get better with that person.

As Rollo Tomassi quite well put it, “Have a job, not a career.”

A wise man chooses his wife by how good of a mother she’d be. Not by how good of a leader she might be.

The conqueror

No man gives a flying fuck about your career. It’s his job to provide for the family. Just work a job that pays the bills, and focus on more important things in your life. For example how to be more feminine, how to find a proper man (like the ones I am trying to mold!).

And trust me, that family life will be more fulfilling than the cock carousel. By a landslide.

–Alexander Reich

Do you feel you’ve been lied to about the female path of life? A career doesn’t really give anything? Let me know in the comments!

Find Part I, the lie about beauty vs. hotness here. And Part II, the lies about female sexuality here.


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