Today, we’re diving into the topic of Jesus, but not the Jesus you’re probably heard from many Christians. Everyone talks about being graceful, loving, and just never affronting anyone — this is Jesus’s way, right? But it wasn’t. If you actually read the Bible, which many Christians probably don’t do, you will quickly realize that Jesus didn’t take shit, to put it bluntly.
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Jesus: No Stranger to Confrontation
There’s one verse that really struck out to me, and there are many, but this one is particularly telling. Matthew 23:27–28 says, “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean. In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.” Well, he dropped the hammer there. He just didn’t care; he gave the Pharisees straight talk. This is what people don’t realize.
Misconceptions About Gender Roles in Christianity
And I come to this every time when people talk to me about women submitting and the idea that Jesus fulfilled the prophecies in Genesis due to his existence, because he did over 300 prophecies. But also what he said — the patriarch is abandoned, males don’t have authority over wives anymore because they’re all equal in the name of God. No! Jesus didn’t do any of that. He brought women up to the same level in society in the case that you could actually talk to them — before, you weren’t allowed to. But there’s still a difference in hierarchy. All of his apostles were men. The woman at the well spread his message, yes, but she wasn’t a teacher or allowed to preach in church. Jesus never spoke about changing household dynamics to make men submit to wives.
Masculinity and Leadership in Christianity
Jesus was a real masculine leader, compassionate yet assertive. This is the image men should strive to emulate. It’s your calling as a man to be compassionate, understand your subordinates, or in a marriage context, your wife’s desires and feelings. But being compassionate doesn’t mean you do everything they want. Your goal as a husband is to keep the marriage alive, a godly covenant in God’s spirit, and for this, you have been given authority by God.
The Role of Authority and Responsibility
With great power comes great responsibility. Jesus wasn’t just nice; he was kind, sat with sinners, forgave them, but he didn’t let them sin anew without calling out their wrongs. He was straightforward, even with his insults when necessary, like calling the Pharisees “whitewashed tombs.” This doesn’t mean you should insult your wife, but you must understand your authority.
Practical Application in Modern Life
As a man, you must stop being a weak, nice guy. If you don’t have the capacity for cruelty, you will absolutely be a victim to anyone who does, including your wife or children. People will test your boundaries, and you must be strong, straightforward, and direct, much like Jesus. If you want more sex in your marriage and you’re asked how often would be okay, don’t lower your expectations to not affront; say what you want directly, like “I want it twice a week, otherwise, I don’t feel loved by you.”
Dealing with Toxic Dynamics
Even with family or friends, if they’re toxic, like a mother-in-law who won’t let go, you need to be clear: “We are now one flesh. Stop interfering with my marriage.” This authority also means being concise, precise, and decisive.
Conclusion: Embracing the Full Spectrum of Christian Masculinity
Christianity isn’t just about being nice all the time; it’s also about being strong, courageous, and powerful. Jesus showed this through his actions — he spoke in parables, but his messages were direct. He even flipped tables in the temple when necessary. So, grow some teeth, look into the dark side within yourself, and embrace a masculinity that reflects the full spectrum of Jesus’s leadership. Remember, preaching the word of God also requires the courage to tell people when they are sinning.
