How to cure PIED? Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. It was a big thing for me, obviously, because I was addicted to the porn thing for very long time.
Many years, many, many years.
And I’ve been asked this recently in my group on Telegram, if I have a video/post about curing PIED and I realized, I don’t.
There are many ways to do that. But the it comes down to one thing.
You need to solve the underlying issue.
Because he, for example, asked me if no fap will also cure PIED, and it won’t. Just because you don’t shoot your load, doesn’t mean that suddenly the anxieties that made the PIED happen are suddenly gone.
It’s just not the case. If anything, it makes it worse because then you haven’t shot your load for weeks even. And then when you’re finally with a girl, then it’s going to be over quick. So that’s not very helpful. In fact, it might make it worse. Doesn’t mean you should stop NoFap. It means you should solve the underlying issue.
How to Solve PIED – What’s the Reason?
For me, it was or it had many reasons, but came all down to pretty much performance anxiety, which is rooted in fear of judgment, which is rooted in a complete lack of self esteem, in self confidence.
So PIED or any sort of ED really is solved by building your self confidence and your self love and your self esteem.
Now, obviously the P in PIED, stands for porn, so you need to quit porn. If you haven’t done this yet, forget about solving the problem. You first need to quit that. And as I mentioned in the one and a half hour self-improvement beginner guide, the reason for any of your addictions is because you avoided going through the emotional labour of whatever started the addiction in the first place.
That means at some point you went to porn for a reason. And it was likely because you were rejected, sexually or just from from random girl approaching her. Because for so many men, the porn addiction starts at around 11 years old, which is crazy.
I think I was 15, something like that, when I first watched a porn clip. And this became an addiction very fast because the dopamine rush from the orgasm is very strong. This hooked you on it in the first place and then you have to figure out what actually was the reason back then you went for that.
There must have been a reason to watch this, right? Probably some emotional labour, which means, for example, maybe you also got scolded by your parents. Then you need to feel good about yourself, whatever it is. Like the first watching of a porn clip I don’t think does really make you addicted. The addiction comes later when you do it to to solve an emotional issue.
So anyway, I’m getting a bit off track here, but this is the first thing you need to do is solving your porn watching issue.
And this is done by going through that emotional labour.
Whatever it is, figure it out. Go back into your into your childhood when you first started it. Conjure up what you did the first time you watched a porn clip and then figure out what the emotions, what’s the scenario, what happened before that.
And then you can can solve that by letting it go, reframing it. Many techniques you will also find on on my blog, on my YouTube.
Methods to Solve PIED
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Let’s say you had a girlfriend and you wanted to have sex with her, but you couldn’t get it up because of course, she wasn’t doing what the girls were doing in porn, and you masturbated to porn for 3 hours already that day. And the other thing is that, if you watch porn alone and masturbate to. There is no judgment, right? There is nobody watching.
This is why we do it in the dark. And this is a “good feeling” because it gives you the possibility to not face your issues.
To not face the emotions.
Again, I come back to this of being vulnerable to the other person. All right. But you will have to go through this if you want to have a healthy sex life or get rid of that PIED.
This means you will have to go through the emotional labour of not just letting go of the pants, also letting down your shields. So a big, big thing to actually cure this is by going into the next fling with your girl and thinking about you will now completely drop your shields. You will be completely fully vulnerable.
That means also accepting that you might not get it up.
It becomes a part of you. The first time it actually changed in my mind for me was when when I couldn’t get it up. And each time this happened, she was, of course, mad because women take this on themselves that they are not sexy enough or whatever, even though that’s not the reason it’s your own addiction.
But then I just had to shrug it off, I said,” Just let it do next time.” And then you are cool and proceed as always.
Because what’s happened more in most cases is that guys become completely weird about it right away. Like they feel bad about themselves, of course, for a reason. But accept it as a part of you right now.
This is who you are.
I know you made that mistake in the past. You’ve been addicted to it. Fuck it. That sucks. But this is who you are, right now. You now have this issue that you have to accept it because the first step to letting something go is accepting it. You first need to accept it as a part of you and you also need to act according to that.
It means if it happens, too bad, whatever. Be completely normal towards her when this happens, not trying to. You actually have to be that.
That means you will have to go again for the emotional labor that potentially you will not get it up. Or even if you get it up, you will shoot awkwardly. Whatever it is that feel of judgment you will have to overcome.
And you do this by exposing yourself to it. But the difference is the awareness of putting yourself out of the moment, observing yourself, and then seeing if, for example, it happens again. You’re like,
“okay, I’m now getting anxious again of potentially losing her, of her judgment, of her thinking badly of me, of me thinking badly of myself. But I’m just letting this go.”
I’m just driving this character on Earth, this guy. You, right? And I’m the consciousness sitting in the back of the mind just observing. And there is nothing to be afraid of.
Maybe it doesn’t even happen because you don’t care. It’s just part of you. The same if you shoot too fast, for example, same thing as PIED.
If this if this is all too complicated for you, there is a very easy approach. As always, and that is subliminal messaging. You know, we’re big on this, on this very page.
And there is one sub I would highly recommend for this, and it’s called Sex Mastery. You can also use Diamond, one of the other of these because they will solve sexual issues, sexual traumas, sexual wrong beliefs. Sexual issues like fear of judgment, performance pressure, these kind of things.
It’s also just an MP3 for you to listen to. That’s that’s pretty simple but it will also bring up some emotions and traumas. You CANNOT avoid this!
Your subconscious will have to go through the emotional pain of what first started addiction or what first started the PIED. There must have been a reason back then why you couldn’t get it up.
And this was, for example, because you felt judged or because you knew deep down you actually masturbated to porn twice that day to some hentai midget porn or whatever.
And now a regular woman is just not hot enough.
You knew this in the back of your mind.
So you had these thoughts and you just couldn’t get it up because of it. Then you acted all weird when it happened. So she acted all weird when it happened. And this created this dynamic you proceed to do every now and then to this day. And to to get rid of that is through solving the emotional labor of what you avoided in the first place.
I highly recommend you should do the subliminal messaging program because 95% of all daily decisions, beliefs and drives is done by the subconscious mind. So this is a big chunk.
And especially Diamond also is an aphrodisiac. So she will be attracted to you a whole lot because the subconscious mind radiates this outward.
The first step is, of course, healing.
It’s really the only way. You cannot avoid going through that emotional labor. Everything else you do is an external solution for internal problem that will not solve it.
Anything you try, any sort of supplement or whatever, ignore that shit. It’s all bullshit. You don’t need Viagra. It doesn’t solve it. You need to go through that emotional labor. There is no way around it. But this is also the only thing that actually helps to solve it forever.
