Let me guess, you’re married for some years, you love your wife, but sex just isn’t as hot anymore as it was, right? You still want her, but she seems so distant. If sex happens, which it does rarely, it’s just missionary. You don’t even know how a blowjob feels like anymore. Did I picture your marriage? Guess why? Because I’ve been there. Gladly, I discovered that there is a reason for this, and the answers are in the following 8 must-read books for the married man.
If you have more general questions about this, I would urge you to read my guide on how to re-ignite your wet hot sex-life here. But for the married man, there is more knowledge to be gained via books than just mere blog articles.
A man who does not read the teachings of other great man, is lost.The conqueror
Here is my top 8 list of books for married men. I have read them, and they opened my eyes. And my wives legs. So check it out below.
Note: I recommend reading them in that order. They sort of ease into deeper concepts over the course of the books. So start with NMMNG below.
1. No more Mister Nice Guy (Amazon US)
I would definitely recommend any married man to read this book to start out. It’s the easiest to digest in terms of the message itself. Definitely the starting point for most men.
This book is fully focused on you as a man. What you actually want as a man, what you are not getting out of your marriage, and why. The things you do wrong with your wife, and yourself.
It’s a world wide bestseller by Dr. Robert Glover. It’s no pickup artist book, it is solely designed to get you what you want out of your marriage. It will be weird at first to put yourself first. And not your wife. But not only is it what she wants (paradoxically, I know). It’s also what you want deep down. And need.
You’re a person. You have needs, and wishes. And they will be respected. This book talks a lot about why we are in the place we are with men and women today, what the implications are, and most importantly, how to get out of it.
How to set boundaries, how to get the wet hot sex-life back, you once had. And how to be the leader in your home.
2. Reclaim your Manhood (Gumroad eBook, Amazon US)
This is the book of my good friend Ryan from PathToManliness. This book will set the baseline for your journey. He wrote this book after his divorce and realizing a lot of the mistakes he made so far in his life.
He basically wrote this book for his younger self. Which is why it is perfect for guys in their twenties, before they marry, or if you are still married, to see the mistakes you’re making. If you are such a guy, you can’t miss this one. Well, generally, you shouldn’t miss this one.
It covers everything, your masculinity, friends, women, marriage, sex, money, purpose. Everything you been neglecting for so long. It’s a short book, cut to the chase, outlining what we’ve been lacking for so long as men in this society. It’s just $5, so definitely don’t miss this one.
3. The married man sex life primer (Amazon US)
Even though this book is from 2011, it is still up-to-date as ever. The basics never change. Women still want to be submissive and want a proper masculine male. This book sets yourself up to navigate sex-life when you’re married for a while. How to keep it up (literally) if you decided to stick with one woman.
It’s basically how to apply “Game” in marriage, mixed with No more Mr. Nice Guy teachings and “The mystery method” all in one!
It has some great concepts of how to incorporate “beta traits” which give your woman comfort in your marriage to stick around, mixed with alpha traits to keep her sexual desire hot for you.
Along with a barrage of interesting stories and ideas on how to be sexual in a years-old marriage with kids. He claims, his wife and him have sex pretty much every day, despite two little kids. So he knows his ways.
4. The Rational Male (Amazon US)
Alright, you should be warmed up to the tough stuff now. This book needs the other books definitely first! Why? You need to have read some truths about men and women first. Otherwise, this one will make you end up as a MGTOW loser. Why?
It will hurt your soul. And change your life forever. This book is an objective overview of both sexes sexual strategies. How men choose their sexual partners, and how women choose their sexual partners. What women really want in a man, and why they still end up going for the jerk. If you spent $20,000 on the wedding, but two years down the line she fucks the Poolboy on your $5,000 vacation, this book will teach you why that is.
And this is why it only comes in now. The Rational Male is tough to read. And the Author himself said, after realizing the truths in this book, there will be an anger phase. You will be angry at women in general. And I can confirm that.
The important part is to overcome that anger (where the next book will help). But the anger phase is important. You’ve been lied to for decades what women really want. And now you have the truth, and resent all the bs you’ve been told. It’s natural to be angry. Don’t suppress it.
Go through this phase, it is a vital part of unplugging from a feminized society. This book is basically what made The Red Pill famous, if you ever heard of that.
You can also read my summary here first. And after you’ve read it or the book, you definitely need to check out this post about how to love women while being redpilled.
And, well, you’re on the right blog. Because my main goal is to teach you how to have a successful marriage while being redpilled to women’s truth’s.
5. The Way of the Superior Man (Amazon US)
God I love this book. It’s so refreshing to read. After you’ve been angry at women in general, this will help you understand how to live, fuck, and cope with them in your every day life.
It’s a spiritual approach to the sexes. Why are women even in your life? Why do they act like they do? Why do YOU act like you do? How to find your masculine core, and how to operate properly with the feminine.
It explains easy, clear, and direct all the things about women you never understood. Why she nags you. Why you would actually want that to happen. What to gain from these things? Why they test you all the time. Why they act so irrational? Why the mood switches within seconds, and most importantly, how to work with all that.
Very, very, very helpful within a marriage!
This will then make you love women again, after you’ve learned their truths. Which is why it is so important. Because in the end, half of the world’s population is filled with them, and you’re married to one. So you need to find a way to get along with your wife properly.
This book will give you a certain calmness, because you finally understand what is happening with your wife, and why.
6. The Sex God Method (Free PDF Download)
This book was sold once but is now free to download. If you’ve heard of the “DEVI-Method” it is from this book. It is from a man who was once a porn-addicted loser, turned his life around and now lives in a relationship with one woman, who gladly brings other girls to spice up the sex-life.
“I’m married, though!” Look, this lifestyle isn’t for everyone, and I am not telling you to have a harem of women while being married, although this book would make it possible.
The point of this book is to teach you how to fuck! See, when you’re good in bed, naturally your wife wants more of it, right? Simple logic. And you’ve been doing it all wrong, all your life. Hell, I did! After I read this book, and implemented some of the tactics, I couldn’t believe how wet, horny, and moaning my wife suddenly was.
I was reborn!
And the best thing. All that’s in this book is already within you. But decades of social conditioning put it in a slumber. It will teach you:
- How to be dominant in bed, and why it’s important
- How to last longer
- How to give her blistering orgasms
- How to bound her so heavily through sex, she never wants another dick
Now, this doesn’t come with a week. Don’t kid yourself. Sexual mastery takes training, but just the mindset of being sure that you just can be the masculine force, you always wanted, and she actually likes it, although she might voice differently, will help to set you up!
And, well, it’s free. So read it!
I also wrote a summary of the sex god method on my blog, if you can’t be bothered to read all those pages.
7. When I say No, I feel guilty (Amazon US)
If you want to achieve literally anything in life, you need to be assertive. Which means, you need to be able to voice what you want in a manner that makes people more likely to give it to you.
So if you don’t get what you want. From your wife (sex), from your boss (money), from your friends (whatever), then this book is necessary for you.
You’re probably arguing a lot with your wife. That’s usually the case when things are wrong. And if they weren’t wrong, you wouldn’t be here. Either sex, disrespect, or general insufferable behavior.
This book will help you to verbally get what you want.
You will unlearn arbitrary rules of guilt if you don’t behave as others want, so you are less likely to be manipulated. And then you will learn a bunch of tools on how to get what you want. Without manipulation. Just clear statements without falling in the traps of others. Truly a great book!
Intrigued? Read my summary of WISNIFG for free here!
8. OWN YOUR SHIT, Conquer life!
This one will transform your life.
Yes, this is my book. A shameless self-plug. But I wrote this book after fixing my marriage. It contains all the things I did to get to a loving, sexy, healthy marriage.
It contains the mental models I developed, and improved. To understand what my purpose is in life and in my marriage, as well as my wives’ purpose and how to get it.
But this isn’t just another self-help guru book. This one has a plan. A plan to conquer yourself.
Because there is only ONE way to get from life what you want. By owning your shit, and getting it done.
This book sets you up right. It is tough locker room language. No chit-chat. Just straight to the point, getting your mindset right. I want to make a great man out of you, who gets the sex-life he wants (married or not), money, and success!
And it works:
Those are the books I recommend reading. At least! This is your baseline. Along with my blog, that will set your mind straight.
But they are all useless.
If you don’t apply them. Reading them, and learning the teachings is necessary. But even more important is actually applying the knowledge. You will need to get out of your comfort zone and do these things mentioned in the books. Won’t be easy. But definitely worth it.
Read, think, apply, win.
That is the only order of things that works.