What Does It Mean To Be A Man? Toxic Masculinity? (A Healthy Masculinity Powerguide)

Over the years, this society became more and more feminine. Masculinity is going down in flames.

What are the results? Sexless marriages, communism on the rise, genderfluid people, and guys twerking for climate change.

This society is in desperate need of true men. But what does it mean to be a man? What is masculinity? True masculinity? Is there a difference? And why is it being suppressed?

We live in a Feminized society

Over the years, society has told you and other young men, that you should be “in tune with your feminine” side. Which means, being more sensible, display your feelings and – by God – never affront anyone.

Because the aggressiveness of a man is bad.

Accept the brutal reality of a corrupt society. The goal is to enslave your mind.

So we raise little boys like they are broken girls. Try to make them more feminine, don’t fight with others in the mud (if you happen to be one of the lucky kids who gets to fight outside, instead of on your console).

What did we get out of this?

  • Testosterone is at all-time lows
  • Erectile dysfunction is on all-time highs
  • Male suicide is at all-time highs
  • Depression is at all-time highs
  • Divorce rates are stupidly high
  • Lots of people cheat
  • We raise weak men who get nothing done

Where did this come from?

From a lack of great men.

The majority of women don’t care about power because they are in tune with their femininity.

Masculinity has been distorted so much, people don’t even know what it means to be a man.

And you don’t need me to tell you.

Because deep down you know it.

But let’s explore this a bit.

What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

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MAN needs a purpose. Something to strive for on a daily basis. Just sitting with a Mojito in hand on the beach gets boring after about a month. What’s with the rest of your life? You need to create your own little dent in the universe.

That is true masculinity: A man does things.

He creates. Builds. Destroys. Rebuilds. Destroys again.

A man cannot sit still his whole life. He has to do, build, create, destroy. For his worth is only a mirror of what he achieved.

It is the way of things. Just like nature destroys itself each winter, and builds itself up again each spring, so do men with civilizations and societies.

It’s like buying a new phone. Burn off the deadwood, start off anew.

What Does It Mean To Be A Man in biological terms?

Let’s talk about sex. In our deepest desire, the most basic human thing; in sex, the man creates.

We create life. The sperm is already a living being when it leaves your dick. They already waddle around and try to get to the egg.

The man creates, the women receives.

This is equally displayed in the most classic position. Missionary. The man thrusts, the woman receives.

Sperm moves and tries to fertilize whatever comes by. The egg is stationary and is to be fertilized.

Our basic biology tells us what men do and should do, and what women do and should do. Men are here to do. Create and build.

We make the decisions.

The egg is stationary, it can’t move. It can’t decide where to go or who to be fertilized by. The man chooses where to put his sperm. Therefore, it is our decision.

A man who denies his basic biology is not a man; by definition.

Modern masculinity

Yet, modern men suppress their deepest biology. They’ve lost touch with their own manliness.

What they should do and why they are on this earth. Hence it is not a surprise that women don’t want to fuck you. You’re not really a man, why would she have a desire for you?

Why should colleagues and peers respect you? If you don’t conquer the world?

Why should you respect yourself, if you can’t even control your own desires?

Most women – and potentially the ones you encountered – are deep down of traditional creation. The women you deal with and see out there would like to be submissive.

When they are constantly in their masculine energy, this is exhausting for them and unnatural.

Just like feminine men get resentful quickly.

Women GLADLY submit. But they ONLY submit to authority.

Do you have any authority? Over yourself? Your vices? Your impulses? Your life?

Instead, you’re applying the “woke” lense society instilled in you on a biological female. That doesn’t work. And then you blame Trump.

You give away power. Anyone who can make you mad has control over you. Not a good feeling, is it? What is masculinity? Not being phased by strangers insulting you because you know who you are deep down. What you can do. What you are capable of.

If you’re a young man, congratulations, you found this very important information much sooner than I – and most men – did.

Make use of it! Be a real man. And check this post out from my good friend from LifeMathMoney with 19 lessons for teenagers and young men.

Listen to reality

You have been conditioned by society. But those are the wrong “women” to listen to. You should listen to the actual girls out there. And check back with the man within you, if it applies.

Most women tell you straight up what they want. A truly masculine man. Who has charge. Is in tune with himself. Stands up for what is right. Follows his passions.

And whenever you read one of these news stories about how manspreading is wrong, and how you should ask for consent before you approach a woman, listen to your inner self. Does this feel right? Does this feel like something a conqueror would do?


You don’t need permission from anyone.

A great man does not ask for permission. If anything, he asks for forgiveness afterward.

You don’t need permission from your wife to do anything. Who is in charge in this scenario? You or her?

You can ask for her opinion, but ultimately it is YOUR decision what you do with YOUR time. No one else has a say in that.

And then, when you have finally freed yourself from the female opinion, you will realize that the feminine herself is only a small portion of a man’s life. You have bigger things to do. This is what your masculinity is. Doing great things.

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What Does It Mean To Be A Man In 5 Easy Traits

So what then makes a true man? A man who is desired by women, people, friends, and family, and can change the world for good? No. A man who is in tune with himself. Who does not care what others think of him. An Unchained Man. Let us explore five traits that help you achieve that.

  • Purpose
  • Strength
  • Integrity
  • Confidence
  • Detachment

What is Masculinity? Purpose

A true man has a divine purpose for his life. He wants to achieve something. Bring meaning into his existence on this planet. Make his name ring in the halls of history. You don’t know your meaning in life? Find your why here.

This is a big part of the male frame, which is the basis for interacting with women as well.

You don’t sit around, thinking all the time on how to do it. You go out and do.

And while you do, you learn from mistakes, adjust your course, and keep failing forward.

I don’t have to think about what I am going to do today. And I don’t even have time to engage in easy pleasures that ruin my life like Netflix. Because I have so much to do. So much to achieve. Once you find your purpose, you will never ask about motivation or be bored.

Bored are men who have nothing to strive for in their life.

A man without a purpose for his life is lost.

A man with a divine purpose for his life is a shining star in a world of mediocre people. Everyone looks up to him, being engaged by his energy to bend reality to his will.

Everything stands and falls with your purpose.

What is Masculinity? Strength

This is physically as well as mentally.

You need physical strength to protect your loved ones. You never know what happens in this world.

A man needs to be able to protect himself and others. At any given time. Plus, the respect you gain for yourself by molding a proper masculine body can’t be faked. The iron never lies.

Walking on the street, knowing you could handle any sort of fight, adversity, or tough situation that comes by yields a certain calmness and confidence.

Mental strength is dealing with the curveballs of life as well as with the feminine chaos. Women are emotional.

They throw tantrums, shit-tests, and they are impulsive many times. A proper man is a pillar in this room. He stands the tests with ease and does not kneel to any shit thrown towards him.

Leonidas from 300 holding his shield against a storm.

If you follow a mission, if you make money online, you will encounter a ton of issues, problems, and drawbacks.

You need the mental strength to not fall down crying at every small issue. You face them full-frontal. That’s why men are aggressive. They attack problems.

A man’s true strength comes from being tested a thousand times.

What is Masculinity? Integrity

Your armor will be tested from all sides. Women, bosses, kids, friends, family, colleagues.

Everyone will intentionally or unintentionally test if your virtues are true. If you really stand for what you believe in. This is integrity. You live by your virtues at all times.

Also known as frame.

This also means you stand up for other people. If a man is bashed in a conversation, although you know he is right, you stand up for him and fight on his side. You don’t let him drown in bullshit. You fight for what is right!

A true man can never let his values be undermined. He fights for them against all odds.

What is Masculinity? Confidence

True confidence is built. By what you already achieved, and all the hardship you went through. You can only fake so much confidence.

At some point, it will shine through. A truly confident man knows what he is capable of.

He attacks life with full confidence since he knows he can handle it. And if he can’t, he knows he will learn from it to fight it again.

A man’s confidence is like a metal shield. Through hourless beating on its material, it becomes impenetrable.

Confidence is not second-guessing everything you do. Overthinking. You believe in who you are. You are comfortable with that person. Your true masculinity.

A man knows, he has flaws. He doesn’t hide them. Real confidence is knowing everything you’re bad at, but not hiding it. If you accept all your flaws, nobody can harm you. There is nothing someone can attack you with. The result of this is pure, uncovered confidence in yourself.

What is Masculinity? Detachment

A man of power is detached from everything.

Women, love, money, friends, power, status.

The paradoxon of life is the fact that your detachment from these things will yield exactly those in abundance.

This is what a Conqueror understands. Definite Detachment is the key to success in any realm of your life.

It is vital to understand how codependency and attaching yourself to things has negative effects throughout your whole life. Women will shatter this weakness of attaching yourself to them with ruthless force.

Your business will go down in flames if you are attached to outcomes.

Definite detachment is a big part of a man’s masculinity. It is also your gateway to higher consciousness.

The counterculture

Those are only five traits of masculinity. There is obviously way more to being a man.

This society fights true masculinity with ruthless determination. There are multiple reasons for that which would make this article too long. Just realize that being a classic man, a patriarch, is now the counterculture. Worse, you will be labeled an asshole if you embody these traits.

The majority of people are depressed, lazy, non-achieving, tired, useless. So, your best bet is to just not be like the majority of people. It’s not that hard.

Get back with your biology. Become a real man.

As nature designed you.

Trust me, as someone who been on both sides, the masculine side is much, much better.

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Sacrificing for the goddess

What most men do these days is living their woman’s dream instead of their own.

This has been forcefully indoctrinated in you for decades. The American Dream is really the female dream.

You buy her a house, buy her a nice car, buy her dresses; you have kids you rarely see because you work a shit job you hate to pay for the mortgage. Then you come home late, so you don’t even see your kids, and the wife is oh so tired from not leaving the house all day. You don’t have sex either, because she is tired when in reality she just doesn’t feel any tingles for your dad-bod and your inability to achieve greatness.

A happy man provides for his family, but he shall never neglect his soul in the process.

She gets to have everything, while you have nothing. Where are your dreams in this?

Most guys who get themselves into this situation never live their own dreams. They sacrifice them to please the goddess at home.

And that’s exactly what pop culture tells you is a great man.

You sacrifice everything. Setting yourself on fire to keep others warm is how society portrays a great man. Which is sold as “growing up” to please the woman and make her life easy. That is portrayed as “male love” in these movies.

The cold harsh truth is, this has nothing to do with love, what this is, is a servant – deity relationship. You are a provider, not a husband.

The problem with female validation

Now a bunch of so-called alpha’s will pop up and laugh at the Nice Guy for being in that situation. But they have it backward as well. If you see a guy whose only goal in life is to fuck as many women as he can, he is still caught in the fangs of the goddess.

He needs female validation to be someone. (exceptions apply of course)

If you’re a Seducer or a Nice Guy, doesn’t matter. You’re both on the same side of the coin. You both sacrifice everything to please the female. You just use different tools. Both of you are living the woman’s dream instead of your own.

And this makes both of you mad. Seducer’s hate-fuck the women to feel above them, since they are in a submissive state while having sex, and the Nice Guy occasionally lashes out with back-biting tantrums.

Both are grounded in resentment. Because both betray their soul. Both are chained.

What is Masculinity in terms of love?

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When a man grows up, he has to learn to parse his emotions. This is vital for success in any realm of the male experience.

This also means the love he gives to a woman needs to be in control. If he loses himself in his feelings for her, she will – 100% of the time – abuse this weakness. Why? Because she cannot know that you are strong enough to take HER emotions.

SHE wants to let go in your arms. But if you’re emotionally weak, she can’t.

Beware of projections, my friend. AWALT is for mentally handicapped, bitter men. It is not that all women are evil and try to kill you. But weakness will be abused by everyone and everything in a man’s life. You do not get to be weak.

TRULY being vulnerable with your flaws, wants, needs, and sharing them with your partner takes enormous STRENGTH. It’s not a weak thing to be vulnerable. EXACTLY the opposite!

This is where we come full circle to the male love. You love from strength.

What is masculinity with love? Loving from a position of strength.

This means sometimes being the patriarch and making decisions your loved ones don’t like. You will be painted the bad guy, but it is your duty to make sure they come out great. To have the long-term in mind, and sacrifice the short-term.

This might also mean sacrificing time with your loved ones, your wife, your kids in the short run to be successful long-term. This way, later in life, you can provide them with a great life. They won’t understand it now. But they don’t have to. They will be mad at you. But you love them anyway. From a position of strength.

A man also needs to apply proper judgment who is worthy of his love. Not any woman you encounter is worth it. In other words, not every woman is wife material. Just like some men’s use is only to be a display of a negative example. So are some women just there for “entertainment,” but not for building an empire. Judge correctly.

Love and purpose

These two things go hand in hand. You need to find your purpose. A man has something he lives for. You focus your attention on that thing. Whatever it is, if you don’t know what you want (and you probably don’t), check this post on how to find yourself.

This will open up a new love to you. The love for yourself.

People will call you a narcissist for that. This is projection from a weak society. Only when your own purpose is in check, you love yourself and what you do, can you give love to others.

The majority of people have this backward. They try to fix their lack of love for themselves by seeking the love of others. This will lead to misery.

And if you are on track to finding your purpose, you will go after it. You will make sacrifices for yourself. This might mean you see your kids even less, and at first, this might mean even less sex. But think of this, your kids don’t need a father who hates himself for not being someone. Which will end up in hating your kids, because they are one of the reasons why you can’t be yourself. You don’t make a great father this way.

It builds resentment. Towards your woman and kids. Because they are the source of your misery without even knowing it.

A true man is aware of the dangers of resentment. He is in control of his emotions by being in control of his purpose.

It’s not just the kids. You don’t make a great husband either. Your woman didn’t choose you to be her provider. You made that yourself. She settled for it, because it is still better than nothing, and, well, she is stuck in that situation as well. Women can rarely provide for themselves and a kid. So she would never leave, but she is unhappy with that as well.

Women don’t want to be worshipped, they want to be submissive.

Be selfish. Follow your dreams. Become successful. Do what you love. And then give that love to others.

Advice to young men

If you aren’t married yet, no kids, no house, no debt. Congratulations. But don’t fuck it up in the future. Married life and parental life is much easier if you have a shitton of money. Right? Use the next five years to set yourself up. Most guys have it backward, they try to lay women at a young age and marry one. And then they try to make money to provide.

Use your young age, and no strings attached time to take risks. Start a business, move to another country, try things. Do it as long as you’re young and make money. Then, when you are set up, you can take your time to choose a girl to marry (or build a harem).

Advice to older men

Gentlemen, you can’t turn back time. So you need to play the cards you currently have. First, check out this blog post on how to find yourself, and then this one on how to escape 9-5 hell. Then, find out how to make money online.

Now, in your position, life is hard. You can’t take as many risks as a young guy, but you can still do something. Do you want to live like your current self until you die? The other day I was talking to a friend, his colleague worked his whole life until he was 70. Two weeks after he retired he died of a heart attack.

Man worked his whole life, a shit job. Never had the freedom to experience life. And when he is finally free, he dies.

A truly sad story. I don’t want you to be that guy! Experience life before it’s too late!

Try to get something started on the side. A side-hustle. Anything, really. It’ll take a while, but it doesn’t matter. At least you have something to work towards. A purpose! That’s way better than knowing you will never be free!

Breaking free

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Break the chains that surround you. I don’t know the details of your life. Maybe your wife is actually a bitch and you need to divorce her. Although I would recommend setting yourself up properly for about a year and then decide.

The feminine can only be worthy a man’s time if she supports him in his goals. You shall choose wisely.

But first of all, get rid of that wrong image of what male love should be. Don’t believe in the lies of a deceiving society. You are a man! You lead, you take charge. What is masculinity? Being satisfied with your life and creating something for your legacy. And definitely do not listen to women what you should be as a man.

Don’t let a woman tell you what it’s like to have a dick.

Listen to men like me! Men who lived through it all. I know how you feel, I’ve been in your shoes. Do not apologize for your manliness. Follow your passion, your dreams. Find a purpose, make it happen. Always remember:

A wise man knows, you are not with the woman. She is with you. You follow your purpose, and she shall follow you. As biology demands, the man leads, the woman follows.

You are a human! You should be treated like one!

Take back your power. Take back your soul.

And live life on your accord.

Nobody else will do it for you.

–Alexander Graves

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